A Year Ago

I was just looking through some old things and organizing our office when I realized that one year, I had just returned from my 2 month trip to the Philippines.

So much has changed in one year as Nick and I have settled into jobs, our first house, our 4th year of marriage, and, now, our first pregnancy.

These were the roses that Nick bought and greeted me with when I returned home. I don’t think I’ll ever forget how wonderful those months were, but I don’t think I’ll ever forget how dreadful it was to be separated for that long, too.

Looking back, I am so grateful that I went on that trip that was so much more than a trip. It taught me so many things about interdependence, family, culture, and belonging. It was worth every sacrifice made to bring it to fruition. It also sweetened our marriage in ways that I never expected. Never again since I have returned home have I taken Nick for granted. Not once, not one day.

If I, or we, ever seem cheesy or overly happy, it’s because, frankly, we are and after being on the other side of the earth for 9 weeks without him, it taught me a thing or two about gratitude and love.

Missing Nick and Michael

Photo taken 6/21/09, Filipino Festival in Cleveland

It’s amazing all that can happen in 10 days when you don’t blog.

In addition to Jan and Rog Borchers coming to visit us in Cleveland, Nick and I attending the Cleveland Filipino Festival, my friend Alexis who I worked with in Boston last year moving to Cleveland last week, having 10th row at a New Kids on the Block concert!, seeing the movie “State of Play” (mildly good, entertaining, nothing great), attending our nephew Zach’s 4th birthday party, watching fireworks in Massillon, having another ultrasound (Baby Plum is no longer a plum and is growing quickly!) on Wednesday, hosting Kelly Borchers Norris this weekend on her way to Abby Cordonnier’s (cousin of Nick and Kelly) bachelorette party, and seeing Nick off for a week long trip to Kentucky — even with all of that going on, what I just can’t believe is that Michael Jackson is dead.

(I’m listening to “We Are the World,” as I write this.)

Trumping MJ’s cardiac tragedy, the biggest heartache is being separated from Nick for a week. Now, I know how that sounds — I was gone for 2 months last summer and globe trotted my heart out — but I’m pregnant now and that means two things: 1) I get to say whatever I want without feeling bad and 2) I’m uber emotional

(My MJ music marathon continues. Now on my ear “You Are Not Alone.”)

Nick will be back Friday afternoon and that seems like eons away.

Sometimes when Nick is gone, I feel like this blog becomes the soggy pillow where I consistently weep into with my sadness that he’s not around telling me a corny joke or trying to work some miracle with our shower’s water pressure.

*sigh* It’s going to be a long week.

(last song for tonight’s MJ’s dedication is Nick’s favorite MJ song: “Man in the Mirror”)

Harry Enfield: offensive sketch: Filipino Maid

Fact: More than 3000 Filipinos leave the Philippines daily to find work overseas and to send remittances home to their families. Most of these workers are women.

Fact: Overseas Filipino women often find themselves in modern day slavery and are subject to abuse, sexual assault, and broken work contracts.

Fact: Sketches that mock Filipino maids or any domestic workers as sexual objects and demean their human worth are not entertaining and should apologize for their racist imagery and jokes.

False: This kind of entertainment is acceptable.

If you are not aware of the high rate of Filipino women who work as domestic helpers all over h world, look at the results here on YouTube when you simply search “Filipino Maid,” and find an endless list of womyn trying to find employment.

Memories of the Philippines


I’m leaving for the airport in about 16 hours and packing is a small hurricane of suitcases, strewn clothing, and random wooden crafts that I believe will all fit in 2 suitcases.

A part from the million memories I have of this transformative experience, I will always remember opening the door in the province of Legazpi and seeing this in front of me.

The Philippines has always been a country of disarming surprises.

Two Days and then…

I board Japan airlines.
Switch to American airlines.

And hope to the good Lord that all the ridiculous amount of pottery and handicrafts I bought aren’t damaged as I try to transport everything across the oceans and into Cleveland, Ohio.

I leave Monday, August 25 and travel for 24 hours and arrive on Monday, August 25 – gaining back the day that I lost on June 19th.

9 weeks ago…how they go by in a blink…

Nick – gas up the car, I’m coming home!

Baguio City, City of God


There’s no real way to describe the place from where I am blogging.

First, I am in Baguio City [BAH-gee-yoh], Philippines. About 5 hours (oftentimes more, depending on weather) North of Manila, and the hometown of my mom. I traveled Thursday and will depart tomorrow, Monday afternoon. Baguio is, by far, THE most breathtaking place I have ever been. When I came up on a bus, I saw a sign that said, “Welcome to the City of God.”

City of God, indeed.

This is what you need to know about why I have labeled this place the most spectacular place on earth:
1) It’s a city IN the mountains, which means you have
a. cooler temps (think San Francisco)
b. air that, literally, smells sweet
c. slower pace of life
d. less expensive living
e. smaller city feel, everything’s 15 minutes away

2) It’s my mother’s hometown, which means I have
a. met my mother’s side of the family who I had never seen face to face
b. visited my Lolo’s (Tagalog for “grandfather”) burial spot where I have never been; a grandfather I never met
c. visited the houses where my mother grew up
d. bawled like a big baby at places mentioned in a-c

My cousin Renzie has won in the Cousin Olympics, my fictitious race to determine who is the greatest cousin to me, including both the Factora and the Fernandez sides of my family. Here is why Lorenzo Fernandez wins:

1) He picked me up from the bus terminal (huge points when you’re the first person you relieves you from a bus terminal)
2) He’s an opthamologist who specializes in Awesomeness and does more generous and near free eye surgeries for the poor than is humanly possible
3) He drove me all around this grand city and kept bringing me to places he knew I would love (aka art galleries and craft stores)
4) He and I just met roughly 48 hours ago and I feel like he is my long lost twin brother who knew I would love Bulalo with vegetables (hot soup)
5) He showed me ancient pictures of my mother when she was still single and sporting short skirts and boots. He threw his arm around me, “You probably didn’t know this, but your mom was a hottie.” I can’t believe that I’m writing this, but when I saw her photos…dear Lord, it’s true: MY MOTHER WAS HOT.
6) He’s got a sense of humor like mine: harmless but dry, teasing without malice, often without overkill
…..
and last but not least
7) He freaking gave me an eye exam to fit me for new freaking glasses that are freaking red (something I’ve always wanted) and I freaking hugged him till he nearly turned blue

When we parted today, I hugged him and my arms seemed to lock together. I couldn’t let him go. Meeting and loving family is a blessing, but is difficult when you know that they are, literally, halfway across the world. I am so proud of all of my cousins and am so proud to have the blood of these amazing folks who are doing such incredible work and refuse to be anything but humble about their accomplishments.

Baguio brought me home. I feel more at home here than any place in the Philippines. I got it all wrong before: I should have come here for weeks and visited other places for four days. I could spend lifetimes in this city. It’s that beautiful.

The City of God. The City of my mother.

My cup runneth over.

Back from Paradise



One of my beliefs about life is that there are only a handful of things that we truly love. “Love” as a word is overused and exploited. We say we love ice cream sundaes. We love fast internet connections. We love no traffic in the morning.

I try and intentionally use the word love. I reserve it for people closest to me and, now, for one other place:

BORACAY ISLAND.
[BOR-AH-KIE]

Does the phrase Tropical Island mean anything to anyone? It does for me now. I just returned from, arguably, the most beautiful island beach in the world and I was nearly crying on the plane. After six weeks of intense learning, emotional rollercoasters, and transition, spending three days on a perfect island is quite possibly the greatest idea in the history of vacation ideas.

I hate to be so short, but I am e-x-h-a-u-s-t-e-d. As wonderful as Boracay is, getting there is quite the process. Taxi, plane, van, boat, van, walk…then voila, the most perfect place in the world to unwind. The taxi ride from the airport was another harrowing experience of swerving into the oncoming traffic lane and then playing chicken with an ENORMOUS bus that could flatten the Statue of Liberty.

Tomorrow is the last day of the program and I need to spend some quality time with the family I have made out here before we all separate.

More on the Boracay trip soon!

Graduation Today!

So last night I bawled like a big baby when Becky left for New York.

Becky, my dear friend who I met in the program, is beginning a new job and needed to actually be a responsible adult and cut her time here short. We all crammed (and I really mean that) into a van and waited in 2 hour traffic to say a quick goodbye in where i proceeded to cause a flood with my tears.

Ahh, I miss her.

Today is an eventful day, even without her. It’s our graduation day! That means the lectures and workshops are over and we celebrate this evening with family, friends, and folks we’ve met along the way. Then, tomorrow morning, at the hideous hour of 3am, we will leave for the airport for our VACATION! We’re going to white powder sand beach, Boracay, where I will proceed to throw a towel on the sand and sleep for 3 days straight. I have asked my friends to periodically roll me over so my tan is even and hose me down if I look dehydrated. I don’t think I’ll move at all for three days.

We return to Manila Monday evening, have one enormous assessment on Tuesday of our entire experience, and then check out Wednesday at noon.

The program is nearly over and I believe I am shell shocked that it sped by so quickly.
I have about three weeks of my journey left.

WHERE IS THE TIME GOING?

This is Annoying

NEW VIDEO LINK – CLICK HERE!

There’s a link to the newest video, now it’s a bit dated since I’ve been trying for several days to upload it. Now that it’s uploaded, it won’t post. Errrrr….Blogger and YouTube are annoying the heck out of me these days, so this is the best I can do.